Tag: boundaries
Always putting others first: the pattern called echoism
Always putting others first is usually described as a virtue, and it is often lived as an exhaustion. There is a version of it that is generous and a version of it that requires the person doing it to go missing, and from the outside the two are almost impossible to tell apart. Echoism is…
Why Do I Feel Responsible for Other People’s Feelings?
Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings usually starts long before you notice it happening. A partner goes quiet, a friend’s text lands a beat too flat, a parent sighs on the phone, and something in you moves before you have had time to ask what is going on. Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings is…
